Caught Red Hot Tindering: Hook-up app or game changer?

Whether we’re all too busy or lazy or superficial, does it really matter why we’re dating online? It’s almost expected to have tried digital dating these days if you’re looking for love but the new Tinder app turns dating into a game and those with delicate egos need not download.  No matter how you slice it, the Tinder app is all about who you find visually appealing in 5 photos and 500 words or less. As you swipe left or right to “like” or “reject” a prospect, your potential match does the same. If you both choose ‘like’, it’s a match. Some call it ‘the hook-up’ app and yet others have found love and even marriage. I have no time to date, so I decided to do a live, blind Tinder date on the Sex With Emily podcast. I set the mood and went for the full experience with dimmed lights, wine and of course a few Emily & Tony aromatherapy massage candles to set the mood. My date “Chad”, isn’t afraid to get into his past, voice his opinion (about everything….) and give me a hard time. We talk about marriage, why relationships fail and sex as you age. Chad reveals secrets about his past, I shared my dating patterns As the date progresses, we have differing outlooks but maybe opposites attract? Let me know what you think and what have been your experiences on Tinder? Email me your questions and stories to   Want more Sex With Emily? Check out my podcasts for free on iTunes, my book Hot Sex and my iPhone apps Kegel Camp and Sex Drive. Check out my new intimate care line Emily & Tony for massage candles that turn into luxurious massage oil and DownUnder comfort to stay fresh and dry down there. Use Coupon Code SEXWITHEMILY or 20% off. Also, use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations. These are my favorite sex toys and vibrators from Good Vibes: Sex Toy Recommendations (some restrictions apply). Never tried the #1 Male sex toy. Get a Fleshlight Here

Cheating Myths Debunked

A woman cheats on her boyfriend
In my line of work as a relationship expert, I work with cheaters. Some are funny, others volunteer, and some go to church every Sunday. Some coach their child’s sports teams, others take care of their elderly parents, and some are the sweetest people you’ll ever meet. Some research shows that, at a minimum, at least 50% of all couples will be affected by cheating. It can happen to you. No relationship is immune from infidelity. There is a lack of education about cheating, especially around how and why it happens. I find myself repeating the same things to my clients and continually debunking myths. Talking openly about the “reality” of infidelity is one of the best ways of protecting a relationship from it. Read more

Daily Horoscopes: April 15, 2014



March 20 - April 18

You will always be there with the moral and financial support, but in truth things aren’t working for a loved one. Talk this person out of an exercise in futility.


April 19 - May 19

Any pledge made today promises to go the distance. The beginning steps may be faltering but future returns won’t be. Read more

Ways To Tell He’s The One On The Third Date

Couple cheers glasses to celebrate third date
I know what you see of my clients and me on the show is prep for the first date and the first date itself, but I’m actually very involved with my clients throughout the entire beginning phase of their courtship—on both the millionaire and the match’s sides. Basically, until the couple decides to be monogamous, I’m there. Once they’ve committed, I take a step back and let their love blossom unassisted. One of the many things I’ve noticed is that date three is probably the most telling date of an entire relationship. After a third date, all I have to do is ask my clients a few questions and I’ll know right away if this relationship is destined for love or a quick fizzle. Here are the questions for you to ask yourself: Read more

You Don’t Have To Be In A Relationship. (Ever.)

A single girl stands next to a couple


Here’s the thing about relationships: we never question them. I mean, sure, we talk endlessly about how to manage them. We talk about whether things are going well, whether our feelings are being acknowledged, and whether or not the relationship we’re in is the “right” one.  If we’re single, we talk about what The One will be like, what we think we want from a partner and what we’d be willing to “settle” for. We might even talk about what kind of relationship we want: Open or monogamous? Kids or no kids? Read more

Top 5 Guy Complimensults

Look, I got to give it up to guys because, hey, at least they try and give us compliments. Sometimes however, the “compliments” they give us are actually insults. I chalk it up to guys not thinking before they speak, but here are my top five “complimensults.” Read more