What if he doesn’t invite me home for the holidays?

alone-512x349
Ah! The holidays are a cheerful time of celebrating and embracing the ones you love. CUE THE RECORD SCRATCH! Let’s get real. The holidays are a time of stress and pressure, especially for a new couple. The “will he, won’t he” back and forth of getting invited to his family’s home for the holidays can be overwhelming. It can suck all the joy out of the holidays and put a major damper on your relationship. So, here are some tips on how to approach a possible “non-vitation” back home with your boo during the holidays. Read more

How Do I Stop Picking The Wrong Women

bored-couple

Reader All the Wrong Women writes about a habit close to Patti’s heart…. How do I get out of the habit of dating the same types of women, despite my conscious attempts to choose women who are different?  Specifically, I have a tendency to date women who are disorganized-they habitually run late, and can't manage their money; two traits that bother me, because they smack of irresponsibility and/or a lack of self-control. Also, most women whom I date are politically and religiously conservative. I am neither of those. I realize that at some (unconscious) level, I am choosing them. But, how do I stop doing that? Thanks!

Read more

Why You Should Know Each Other’s Chipotle Orders

couple-romantic-dinner
One evening my boyfriend came over, and stopped at Chipotle on his way to bring me some dinner. He texted me to see what I wanted. My brief responses of “chicken taco” and “you know what I want” apparently didn’t help him too much, because he didn’t get my order right. I wondered, “How could he not know that I prefer corn over flour tortillas, and that I love sour cream with my Mexican food?!? We’ve been dating for almost 8 months!” When I asked him, he then threw down the gauntlet – “What do I like at Chipotle?” Without missing a beat I recited his usual order and he replied by putting his hands up in the air and saying, “Ok ok, you proved your point.” Read more

Exclusive Interview with Alex & Sierra

A&S1
It’s usually around this time of year, when it really starts to set in that fall, has indeed arrived. Gone are the usual flirts with warm weather. My light sweaters are graced with scarves and jackets and all of my favorite musicians seem to be releasing their albums just in time for the holidays. But before I start downloading new holiday music on ITunes or even humming some old favorites, I begin on my usual binge of sorting through all the new music and finding the gems that speak directly to my romantic bone. Read more

The Inside Scoop on Gay Matchmaking

773512408103ff15350f6a706700c298
Matchmaking in the gay community is hotter than ever before. There has been a huge increase in interest in the last few years, and it’s really coming to major popularity in the US, Canada, and Europe. Now there are a lot of matchmakers who work exclusively in this market, and are too busy to take on any other types of clientele. Read more

PTOD: Post Traumatic Oral Disorder – How to love going down on your man

Confidence in the bedroom
 

Q: Dear Emily,

I have a confession: I hate giving blow jobs. The first and last real time that I tried going down on a guy, it was horrible. He smelled really bad down there, and when I tried to just power through it, he pushed my head down and I gagged. He lost his erection and we never hooked up again. Ever since then, I’ve avoided giving BJ’s at all costs. Now, I’m with a really good guy who is so kind and loving to me. He has made it known that he really LOVES getting blow jobs (even more than sex!) and I really want to give him one, but I keep thinking back to that bad experience. How do I get over my oral sex fears and give him the amazing blow job he deserves? Sincerely, Amanda   Read more